People can be dreaming and waiting for years. Waiting for a goldfish, kind fairy, magic Aladdin lamp to appear, and then all the wishes will come true. However, if a magician could appear and say: “Tell me about your wish”, a majority of people wouldn’t be able to say what they exactly want

People can be dreaming and waiting for years. Waiting for a goldfish, kind fairy, magic Aladdin lamp to appear, and then all the wishes will come true. However, if a magician could appear and say: “Tell me about your wish”, a majority of people wouldn’t be able to say what they exactly want.

During our childhood, parents make decisions for us. We get used to it so much, that even when we’re adults already, we keep on living mechanically. Only responsible people change: firstly parents, then teachers, University lecturers, husband, boss??¦ Very often we make decisions, based on common opinion. We allow others running our life. This is a simpler way.

Do you remember “Alice in Wonderland”? She asked Rabbit: “Where shall I go to come somewhere?”. And he answered: “Why should you know? If you’re going somewhere, you’ll come somewhere”.   Information we need to know first of all, - is the exact realization of current situation and complete understanding of the destination we want to come to. Starting our journey, we take a map with us. We calculate the time we’ll need to arrive to our destination, and the main thing is that we know exactly where and why we’re going to.
However, in life we often behave like inexperienced travelers. Very often we don’t even understand how far we are from the destination.

The first step: drawing a map
IMAGINE our life is a line where different stages and events are marked. How long would you like to live? Don’t be shy, give free rain to your imagination, a power of auto-suggestion is well-known to everybody! Let this line be al long, as you’ll want.
Mark it to the age you’d like to reach from your current age. Now think what you’re planning to do on each stage of your life. Try to cover the following spheres of your life: professional activity, finances, relations with other people, private life, spiritual life, health.
For example, you’d like to reach 80 y.o., now you’re 26 and married, in 28 you’d like to build a house, by 40 - receive complete financial freedom and organize your own business, you’d also like to learn although 2 languages, travel all over the world, keep your beauty and health as long as possible, being 60 y.o. - bring up grandchildren and live in the countryside.

The second step: where am I now?
IT’S INTERESTING, have you already started doing something to fulfill some of your future plans? You need to think about the things you’re going to do this year, this week, what you’re going to do today. For example: you want to keep health and beauty by 60 y.o. What have you done for this week to reach it? You went to the swimming-pool. Great. What do you do every day? Well, nothing, quite the contrary - you ate a sandwich today??¦even 2. You have got something to think about. It turns that you are moving away the destination.

The third step: where to go?
NOW here’s an important point: specify your terminals. Choose 5-6 main purposes. Choose real, achievable purposes, on which realization you can affect yourself. Think about the most important and minor things for you. For example, you may compose the following list:

1. Making yourself a carrier.
2. Financial welfare.
3. Traveling all over the world.
4. Giving birth to a child.
5. Staying beautiful and healthy.

It’s very important to describe your purposes in detail. What does financial welfare mean to you? How much is this? What will you do? For example, somebody thinks it’s a wage of 8 thousands dollars per month, somebody dreams about immovable property in Switzerland, accounts in foreign banks and opportunity of not working.

The forth step: working out a route
IT REMAINS only to work out the most optimal route - so that there wouldn’t be any delays and obstacles. So, it’s necessary to check whether your purposes correspond to your route.
Does your main purpose correspond to your everyday plans and matters? How far are your principal purposes from the things you do and plan? Remind the way you spend your time. What you devote much time for, and what you devote almost no time for?
This is the most difficult task. One girl was really shocked, when she saw her principal life purposes were absolutely far from her reality. Her main purposes were family, children, marriage. Imagine how surprised she was, when she understood she had done nothing for that. All her actions were directed only on her carrier development. The most interesting thing was that carrier stood in the latest place in her list.

Ideally, even the things you do everyday, every year, should correspond to your principal life purposes. Think about the way to exclude matters, taking you away from you purposes further and further, from your life. How can you pay more attention to your really principal things?

The possibility to gain what we want is limited in time. For example, you decided to create a family and marry John who has been loving you unrequitedly for a long. And it turns that John is already married and happy. Working out the map, you carry on a very important task - probably, for the first time in your life, you become acquainted with yourself. Unfortunately, as circumstances show, you may turn to be the very person you know least of all in your life.
Knowing of yourself, your wishes - is the first and very important step for creation of your own reality. This means, you begin running your life, like an experienced driver drives his car - paying attention to traffic signs, light signals, calculating time of driving and filling cistern with petrol in time. A driver that doesn’t stray the streets, but chooses the shortest and most convenient route. 

Interesting
Psychologists determined that a color a person likes most of all, can tell a lot about person’s character.

Dark-blue color means concentration of attention on one’s matters, passivity, sensitivity, susceptibility. People, choosing dark-blue color, are calm, content, disposed to love and affection.

Green means quick mind, ability to protect oneself, tenacity, independence, eccentricity of judgment. These are persistent, self-confident, obstinate people with high self-esteem.

Red speaks about strong will-power, interest to outward things, activity, aggressiveness, independence, striving for constant activity, competition. These are optimistic, excitable, active people, striving for the leadership, having well-defined sexuality.