Once you suddenly realize your relationships lost their luster hopelessly, became drained. You feel lack of something new

Exciting mutual attraction disappeared, that state when you were ready to give everything for each moment with your loved one. Words don’t make you glad, touches became ordinary??¦ You need some additional stimuli more and more often, to return previous state of elated delight.

And you are searching for these stress moments unconsciously, as they inject a little bit adrenalin into your blood and create illusion of never-ending love euphoria. How? You quarrel and become reconciled? Provoke and beg, inventing new zigzags and turns to feel that “storm”, to be living on the edge of a volcano.

Popular magazines’ pages give numerous advices on how to return love, refresh feelings, support constant high tone of relationships. And we model our body, perfect “games”, polish words, tricks and ruses, master sexual interaction’s secrets up to group sex, just to return that intensity of emotions. Otherwise, everything becomes uninteresting, ordinary

But we are not always successful??¦ As eternal life holiday is just another illusion of our imagination. The morning sun never lasts a day.

Have you ever thought that our striving to restore moments of happiness in a variant that fell into oblivion long ago are atavism? That past will never be repeated?

But, clinging to it in our mind, we cut off a possibility of coming of new impressions that can turn to be much brighter and richer, than the first moments of our love.

Why we become bored with each other?

Because we are captives of our first impressions

“You changed so much??¦ you became absolutely different??¦ I’m disappointed in you??¦” - how absurdly it sounds on the background of the fact that one cannot stop in his development. We are changing to this or that side constantly, every second. And we cannot require impossible from each other - asking partners to stay same persons, as they were while first meeting. Because this is impossible theoretically!

And a partner is not guilty of these changes??¦ It’s your fault that you could not accept his changes, having fixed a static image of your first love in your mind for ever.

You remembered a model, fixed image of your loved one. Like a dead shot of one single moment. And you do not understand that your loved one became different the following second.

Is it difficult for you to accept this fact? Of course, it is, as it requires extra efforts of submersion. It’s easier to catch an outer shell, it changes much more slowly, insensibly, cling to it and carry, like a compass of your life, tormenting yourself and others with a search for correspondence to that only first impression.

A woman grow fat, old, put on home slippers, a man became flabby, Nature Boy, developed a paunch, grew bald - and a magic image, pictured in your imagination, crumbled like a house of cards. That’s all, no more love, affection, desire??¦ Envelope that supported illusions changed too quickly.

Theoretically, we are doing this during our whole life. Some people require others would meet their demands, others try to justify these expectations as hard as they can, breaking themselves and turning their our soul inside out. And we all know the final??¦ Almost all??¦ As the word “divorce” became almost obligatory attribute of any modern person’s life.

We offer you absolutely different view on your relationships

It insures you against nothing, but does not also tie you to anything. This is a way of attitude to life, free from expectations, light and relaxed, when you are ready to any variants, when every moment of your life, like a clear white board of a clean stainless feeling, absorbs new impressions to the highest degree and fills them with unique and deep sense right now. Neither earlier, nor later, without past and future, without labels and expectations, without conjectures and fantastic projects.

And you don’t care about final and things happened in past.

We shall admit that such world perception is not easy. As our mind used to other aspects of living. It is poisoned with stereotypes, influences, opinions.

Have you thought about really wonderful rich moments of life we lost because of our adherence to standards?

-          We always compare and lose primeval feelings and sensations.
-          We judge and this way depreciate unique moments of our life.
-          We forecast and finally are disappointed.
-          We remember and are lost in past.
-          We adapt to other people’s expectations and forget about our real face.

One cannot be happy, playing someone’s role and dressing up in someone’s cloth. We came to this world to find OUR OWN place. Our own face, road, love, happiness. But we need freedom for this. From ourselves, our expectations, fear that chains our initiative and makes us doing things our soul does not want, but our EGO expects from us.

“So, what do to with relations that are showing signs of breaking up, with our disappointment in each other?” - you will ask, reading this article and not seeing answers to questions, tormenting you.

Just do nothing! Just live them as a stage of your life. Live them to the maximum the way they are right now.

If you feel bored - be bored. Are you disappointed? What’s the reason? You are disappointed in your illusions and expectations? Now you’ve got a unique chance to examine mistaken labels you stuck to this person once. Examine and try to look at him in a new fresh way, not befogged with insubstantial fancies of past. May be his new image will turn to be much more attractive, than previous?

But there’s only one term.   Don’t hurry to make conclusions and stick new labels that will, most likely, turn to be false again.   Everyone is wonderful in his unpredictable originality. And you can comprehend him endlessly. Where there is a will there is a way. Try to understand this, abstracting your mind from marks you grade for his “disgraceful” behavior.   In this case your wish is the main thing. If you want this, period of “coolness” will be over soon, and a new turn of passion will replace it. And this will last for ever and ever??¦ Isn’t it a guarantor of stability you are struggling for so much? Eternal motion of changes, bringing primeval sensations of every new moment of your life!