Woman’s Passions

Yesterday you had a family. And some illusion of happiness. And today… You divorced and nothing can be returned… You feel your complete detachment from nornal, usual and relatively stable life, sinking into a gulf of depression, apathy, complete absence of interest to life.

Everything has changed. Yes! But not ended. No! Everything is just beginning…

 

We endure changes, connected with our family status, especially painfully for some reason.

 

Agree:

But don’t you think that during these moments, gripped by complete disorder of feelings, you just cannot see a pile? And there, by the way, ia absolutely different text:

Unfortunately, divorce is often written on our faces. Like a stain or lifelong mask. But this happens when we cling to the past and don’t allow changes enter our life!

 

Let’s try to examine after-effects of divorce. So, what do we feel after divorce?

 

Regardless of a person, who initiates divorce, every of us feels a burning sense of guilt. That he could not keep relations, that he abandons or abandoned. For our children sufferings, if we have them, parents, relatives, friends. For the fact that we feel negative feelings towards a person, whom we considered the closest one some time. For the fact that we have to speak about material things, divide property and return presents.

 

Very often during a divorce we show our worst qualities, which we even didn’t suspect of. And now we feel a burning sense of guilt, because we allowed them to be shown in all their beauty and behave so disgracefully. Ah, if we could turn back time! But an uncontrolled divorce chariot flashed by along our life, like a tornado, and crushed someone inadvertently, frightened someone to death, and made a cripple of someone for the rest of his life. And we are to blame for it. And as it’s just unbearably to sense this feeling, very often we prefer transforming it into

 

Towards opposite side. We do not want to take the responsibility for the situation! We are searching for the ones to blame. We start associating all representatives of opposite sex with our ex-husbands. And this fact doesn’t help us to find a new partner.

Unfortunately, we gave to admit that divorces bring liberation and self-reliance onlt to few of us. Most of us feel a severe disappointment in our talents, beauty, human qualities and other precious sides of our personality. Sometimes we hear so much negative information about our character from our ex-partners, that we start believing all this.

If your partner prefered another person to you, you feel offcast. And you feel

 

Complete loneliness. As you have no more illusions. You will feel acute isolation from all other people. Now it’s time to proceed to

 

You are not alone. Thousands of women have same problems. Almost all of them create new families, fall in love, give birth to children. And find a new sense of life.

 

Many people know the fact, that after divorce a woman starts treating her life, inner world, carrier and private life more attentively. She livens up, strain her life forces to cope with the situation.

Of course, she has to solve many life questions by herself now.

 

She feels lack of virile strength, communication, sexual hunger, social vulnerability repeatedly??¦

 

But these are not fatal moments! All this makes her stronger.

 

What happened is just happened. It’s not good or bad. It’s just should happen. Try to examine why and what for. Trust to life, it gives us only what we deserve and need, to make our soul clearer and better.

 

Don’t remember past, it already passed. Don’t think about future, it’s unknown. Live here and now.

 

If you feel bad, feel it as deep as you can. Don’t eat up yourself slowly, swallow everything whole, not chewing. Life will digest it, don’t doubt. Try to see advantages and pleasures of your present moment. Think, now you shouldn’t get up 2 hours earlier to cook him breakfast, wash his socks, clean sink, mudded with a toothpaste and dirt from his shoes. You finally can do your favorite business: eating chips, drawing butterflies on wall-papers, writing plots for corporative parties, and no one will tell you about excess fat on buttocks and inanity of your creative work. Nobody will snore near you in the night, sing loudly in a bathroom and take supper at 3 AM…

 

Probably, you always had little time to take care only of yourself, your appearance, dreams, inner world, carrier, sport, interests… Remember, what you had to sacrifice to your family. Now you have much more opportunities. You can achieve something. Now you have a powerful stimulus for self-perfection and development. It’s time to start building your life by yourself, not hoping on anybody.

Every day, every minute wonderful events will happen in your life now. Look closely, listen to. Watch. Every meeting, every event, every line of a book you read. These are signals the heaven sends you as life guiding line. Now you have a new life! Now you know what should not present in it, and what is just necessary for you. And nobody will prevent you from realizing your plan. Because our life is formed by our wishes.

 

When you enter into a state of inner balance, but not earlier, you can fall in love! This helps a lot! Why not earlier? If you are sure you are not embittered against all men, if you can avoid comparison and embarking on desperate adventures, then the earlier this happens, the better. You just need to feel you are a woman now. A Loved and desired woman. This will give you strength and self-reliance!

 

Probably, divorce will bring significant material expenses to someone. If you were completely supported by your husband, didn’t work, have no profession, rich relatives, then you won’t be able to do only due to optimism. But you shouldn’t give way to despair too. You just need to think over your usual assets and expenses. Calculate your material possibilities and lower your demands. Of course, they will change. You have a head on shoulders, abilities and talents. Start with something, and life will suggest a direction for you. Anyway, now you have a choice.