During pregnancy, an expectant mother images the brightest pictures of her future motherhood: baby birth, a young father’s joy, gentle attitude of all household. And a great desire to do everything by herself, give full attention to a baby, be a mistress of the house. However, any woman who gave birth to a child can confirm her life can be divided into two periods: before and after birth.

A future mother should know the emergence of a new man may change her life a lot. It happens that after hospital a woman faces a situation where she is in the cycle of cases, and falls from exhaustion. How you want to go to bed and fall asleep, so that no-one would disturb you!

My new job - baby mama
The first few days after the hospital seem incredibly heavy for a young mother, especially if there is no one to help her. There begins stress. A mother may experience sharp mood swings, sadness, crying spells, loss of appetite, insomnia, irritability, anxiety and loneliness. Most of these symptoms are mild and do not require medical intervention. Such women are recommended to sleep when a baby sleeps, not to neglect spouse’s, relatives’ or friends’ assistance, communicate more with other young moms who have similar problems.

A child’s behavior is considered one of the major factors in postpartum depression development. In the first three months after birth, many children are behaving very restlessly, have bad sleep, often cry, are difficult to soothe. Mothers of these children have higher chances of depression development, because a child’s behavior is physically exhausting, a source of constant stress, and often leads to feelings of depression associated with the fact they cannot cope with a child and do something wrong.

It seems like a newborn just eats, sleeps and spoils diapers, and if food and changing diapers require a mother’s direct participation, then a baby sleeps alone, and usually most of the day. But a mother does not want to leave a child to take a shower, because child can wake up at any moment!

Many young mothers argue with their husbands about a woman’s tiredness at home. And both parents often fight for the palm. But for some reason, many husbands think a woman is just resting at home.

Doctors warn a so-called “postpartum depression” can go not immediately and stay with a woman for a year or two. Psychologists recommend to change one’s life after childbirth. It is worth noting many young mothers are afraid to plan, because they believe it would take away their freedom of action. Quite the contrary, if a woman thinks through and plan her affairs, she will find the very freedom she was lacking before.

The more you simplify your life, the less postpartum problems you will have. Do not attempt to run a perfect household.

Sleep is what most tired women need after birth. They require a full, peaceful sleep. You will ask me where to get it, when whole life is subject to a nursing schedule.

If you look closely, even a very tight schedule has a period for sleep. Sleep is an important part of our life and during it we restore our strength spent on some hard work.

Ask a child’s grandmother for help. Young parents need to know that grandmothers will care for a child better, than a very good nurse. In addition, they usually get great pleasure from grandchildren. They often say with sadness: “Why did not I receive such pleasure from educating my children? Perhaps I treated maternity too seriously and saw it as a duty.”

Unfortunately, emotional isolation is often not diminished, but exacerbated because of relations with grandparents. Parents offer their assistance while fully recognizing your right to take a final decision on certain matters relating to a child very rarely. On the contrary, they consciously or unconsciously seek to have their own, declare themselves (by appealing to their age and experience) an indisputable authority in matters of feeding, care, childhood diseases, etc. Any young mother’s actions are discussed and criticized, that is very painful. Be tolerant of each other’s views, and let your grandmother be your adherent.

Close people, and, above all, husband should pay more attention to a young mother. They are able to help her coping with fears and experiences, assume a significant part of a child’s caring.

It would be great to find someone who would have acted as a therapist - always able to listen, support and comfort at a critical moment. Do not allow a woman locking inside herself, because it could aggravate the situation.

Still, be able to prioritize. Remember, no one can replace your child a mother. Not the best father, nor the most ideal grandmother. And you still have a severe lack of time for a baby, put aside all other affairs.

The best means of psychological satiety - find a new meaning to what is happening. A child itself helps here very often. A baby gives her a first sight “eye to eye”, the first smile at the sight of mother’s face, the first word. And no one knows where we take new forces, cheerful mood, a desire to become the most remarkable mother in the world.

Walking with a sidecar - fresh air and new mood
Remember - stress can and should be relieved by non-medical means. More fresh air, walks, designed and coordinated with specialists exercises, swimming, fellowship, meditation, yoga - all these simple and affordable tools will help to restore spiritual comfort, without hurting a baby.

In modern society there’s an idea of a “good” caring mother: she walks with a child at least 2 times a day in any weather and every walk lasts at least two hours. But do not forget this is just a stereotype, base on your child’s needs and your abilities. Do not make senseless marathons, a child’s health will not be harmed!

Self-care
It is hard to imagine a modern woman, who would not want to regain pre-natal shapes as quickly as possible. But you should be very careful. If you start developing press on the third day after birth, you will run the risk of provoking bleeding. If the birth passed without complications, then proceed to physical exercise a week later.

Relax for recuperation more often. Take a bath with a fragrant foam. Go to a cafe and order a favorite dish. Buy a few dozen plastic plates, and temporarily forget about washing dishes.

Go to visit, accept guests.
If you’re tired of staying at home with a baby, doing laundry, cooking cereals, walks with a child at the nearest park and lullabies at night. You simply crave to break the cycle of domestic troubles and feel like an interesting conversationalist, the soul of company. You finally decided to go for a visit, and have nobody to leave a child with. Take him with you.

Lack of communication often drives into depression. What is bad not only for you, but also on a family. Failure to leave the house for a long time is very disappointing. Of course, this is connected with certain difficulties. If you are breastfeeding, you always have baby food with you. For bottle-babies, you can grab a bottle with formula, perhaps any house has a microwave oven for food heating. Also bring all to the maximum, diapers, change of clothes, tissues and all you usually use at home. Take a taxi, or sit behind the wheel and go to your friends.

Talk and make new acquaintances. Even if it would not be professional and business communication, just friendship with mums in the playground, it is still a way out of painful soul-searching.

Travel. Of course, it’s not easy with a small child, but, as practice shows, there is nothing daunting about it. Travel help giving a fresh look at ordinary things, make a fresh perspective in life.

Of course, childbirth is associated with many difficulties, and often changes our life completely. However, appearance of a baby in the house always means happiness, and the difficulties that arise at first, are surmountable and are a good incentive for development.