As evidenced by psychologists and sociologists work, there are various options for a man and a woman friendship.

Nice guy
Have you ever heard an expression “nice guy”? The stronger sex has one interesting feature: if they see you in a quilted jacket chopping firewood in the early morning after spending a night in the woods, or how you confidently climb up the mountain path, they will not go into anatomical studies, and just admit you a nice guy. You will become a welcome guest while watching football and fishing, you will discuss whims of their wives and girlfriends, gasoline prices and pluses of new Fords.

From lovers to friends
Women tend to experience the need for friendship much more. First, we are much more socially dependent than boys, and secondly, much more emotional and have to throw out those feelings to someone. It is for this reason, we often tend to keep the memories of broken relations, and periodically revive them. A classic example of a man and a woman friendship that has arisen on the ruins of once beautiful relationship can become a situation in which the two separated, but remained friends. This is a rare thing, but it happens. In this scenario, a sudden impulse can lead to a semblance of friendship. That is one of the pair will need something, and another will help him in memory of that bright and clean, which tied them once. Moreover, such assistance most often takes place not in material form, but moral (support, involvement, understanding …). The main and most difficult thing here - do not try to return past. Do not stir up what has long gone. Stir it and break a delicate balance today.

Cry on shoulder
Despite the fact that sentimentality and romanticism are more typical for women, men with similar qualities still exist. So they just need a friend-woman, whom they do not need to be strong, brave, strong-willed and determined with. A normal man is not going to cry on a male shoulder! While a soft, sympathetic woman will listen, drink hot tea, and even give advice.

Do a favor, as a friend
The fourth option of a man and a woman friendship is most common, and is connected with our mostly office lifestyle. Take a look around yourself in the midst of a working day, you’ll see a lot of people of the opposite sex. Surely, you are communicating with them on duty. Maybe even close. At work, when two persons of the opposite sex are working on the same task, they have to spend together a lot of time: go along to meetings, work in office for hours, call up the weekend … Gradually, their communication is beyond the scope of formal and acquires the features of friendly . There begins discussion of family matters and funny stories from life, daily activities and music preferences. However, that friendship does not turn into something bigger, because of too much interest in work and lack of time for realization of their true feelings. This type of friendship is destryoed as quickly as it arises. One has only to stop working together and “friends” will not even call each other.

What is the essence of friendship?
Only those women can deserve friendship with men? Can we call all the above friendship? In my opinion, no. The concept of friendship is much wider, than that given by such a relationship.

My personal opinion is that the true friendship between a man and a woman - not opposed to love, but its complement. Only a couple that is happy in love, shares everything with each other: worries and fears, plans and victories, joy, and little secrets. Such people are always around each other’s support, is not this a sign of true friendship?

With regard to friendly relations between a man and a woman, not having romantic ties, all psychologists working on this issue mark the complexity of their construction and maintenance. Thus the main reason for the complexity is common for both men and women, although they interprete it differently.

The reason for this equality lies in sexual attraction to each other. Men consider it quite natural and are not initially disposed to become familiar with women they are not drawn to. They are, incidentally, not against flavoring a good friendship with sex. Women feel quite the opposite. Sexual tension in friendship oppresses and suppresses them. And sex itself, if it happens, leads exclusively to disorders and mental traumas.

Being a woman and dealing daily with a variety of men, I sometimes wonder if I need their friendship. And I understand I don’t. Rather, I need, but one that is already there - friendship with a beloved man. And the rest just should look, envy, admire and love … I could hardly become friends with someone of them. And maybe romantic natures will ardently object that I’m wrong, and that they are friends with men. I only smile in reply and say I’m glad for them. Sincerely, wholeheartedly. I also once thought we were just friends with him…