A man … a man is a rich prince, hopeless romantic, and always on a white horse. Well, white Mercedes. Or black BMW. This is optional. And yet he must be beautiful, indefatigable in bed, super-hero … well, everything of that kind. Thus, we usually think before the wedding. But later there appear some «small» problems due to which we sometimes even get divorced. Only after some time, lived together, we understand how it should be - though not a real man, but simply a good husband.

If you are confident you 100% know which he should be - namely, your husband, you should not read further. Perhaps, you will dig out the article - after a divorce … Or understand all written by experience. If you decided choosing your husband seriously, that «check list» can help you a little. A little bit about how it was: first, of course, on my own experience - my marriage is second, and much more fortunate than the first one (I took into account mistakes). Secondly, I communicated with my family and divorced girlfriends (as it turned out, the requirements are the same - first just abide by the circumstances, and second cannot stand already). And, third, I conducted interviews with help of Network. Surprisingly, but results are similar in all three cases.

So, what annoys us most in a family life and can lead to divorce or conflicts?

Clothes spread across the floor. Only at first, at the height of your love, you think these are just trifles - a T-shirt thrown on a chair or socks left in the corner. Unexplained men’s feature to hide socks in the corners still amazes many women (sorry, that psychologists did not care to conduct the study, why males do it - perhaps this is due to genetics). You quietly rake them in a washing machine, easily and naturally. How long are you ready to do this? All your life? There is, of course, an option of reeducation. But not all manage with this.

If your beloved prefers taking a shower every morning, wearing only clean clothes after that, then you are lucky and can skip this paragraph. Unfortunately, not all copies are concerned about their own purity, and furthermore, the purity of their belongings, stubbornly believing this should be youк matter. Think - do you need this? No, of course, your parental feelings are great, you take «another child» and care for him all your life. But then you unlikely can depend upon him in the difficult period of life.

Competing schedules of sleep. It just seems that if you get up earlier and can cook breakfast, and give him a cup of coffee, your love will last forever. Your beauty will last long only for him, because you will be able to apply makeup before he opens his eyes. The other side is that he will go to bed late. And it turns out his each evening will be «a single man’s evening», because you already sleep, or is so tired that cannot adequately respond to his communication and harassment. By the way, everything can be completely the opposite - you can get coffee in bed in the morning and frustration in the evening, starting to search for other means of entertainment. It is unlikely that your marriage lasts long in this case.

Sexual temperament. This is not true that men want sex more than women. Quite often there is the reverse situation - he needs twice a week and you’re at least once a day. In doing so, you are not nymphomaniac (as he may declare a couple of months after of living together), you just have such temper. Unfortunately, this issue is ususlly hidden - because of great love you both are ready to prove each other there is nobody better than you. Your temperament is not defined by your desires, but your partner’s satisfaction.

Life goals and aspirations. As it turned out, the difference is crucial. If he seeks to make a career, spends most of time at work and forgets about the weekend, and you are a home body and ready to forgive everything for the sake of financial prosperity, it is still bad, though. True, you can start being angry due to absence of normal «family» weekends and holidays. If all of the other way around, and you are an ambitious careerist, but all his ambitions end at the sofa, there may be much more problems, than it seems at first glance. And just a few months or years (depending on patience), you can come to the conclusion he is a «metal».

Attitude to children. A myth that a young dad should enjoy a crying baby as roughly as mom, is not supported by men. They get annoyed waking up at night very quickly (by the way, according to statistics only 57% of men hear cry of their own child, while only 1% of young mothers can sleep not hearing a child crying). And fathers still prefer interacting with grown-up kids as sparingly as possible, which also affects relations in a family.

Alcoholism and drug addiction. Yes, of course, you can miss the symptoms during the first week, but if your beloved has initial inclination, it can be seen at once - a daily bottle of beer, scotch on the weekends, or grass in the evenings. Unfortunately, many males start drinking in a family - wife is bad, children are not successful, work problems, and so on … You have nothing to do here and can only divorce (or tolerate, if you have a masochistic tendency). By the way, that cause would be worth to be put in the first place, because statistics says 51% of families get divorced due to it.

Financial romance. If we talk about same statistics, yet the two main causes of divorce are apartment question (41% of respondents) and banal poverty (29% of divorces). Of course, not every one of us manages to marry a millionaire, but …

So I listed all of the major problems that occur after the first romantic love passes. However, these problems may arise in the process of family life, so you just cannot relax! Because as it was mentioned in one of textbooks - «Man should be trained and educated like a a circus animal».

However, we do not intend to practice in the women’s science for own family. Therefore, we have another option - lov this animal as it is, with all his flaws, socks hidden behind the seat and shirt thrown by a basket of linen, a bottle of beer in the evenings, football during favorite series, squeamishness to wet diapers and a bad mood because of quarrel with the authorities. And we can tolerate all this in the name of Great and Eternal Love.