Anger and irritation represent natural human reactions, which consequences of broken relationships and loss of work can sadden and hurt even worse.

Try to imagine all consequences of anger before it happens.

Some people are inclined to annoyance and anger more than others. This is due largely innate temperament: natural rate and strength of neural processes, not bad upbringing. People capable of self-control may not show strong emotions and anger outwardly, but it does not mean they do not have them.

For immediate short-term deal with anger, there are rapid methods - for example, physical activity, which perfectly removes irritation and aggression. Moreover, through anger your subconscious can tell you about lack of physical activity. In this case, you will cope with it through traditional fitness, shaping, bodybuilding and morning jogging.

Most often, a flash of anger is preceded by the moment, when we choose a tactic to further conduct: take control of emotions or give will to feelings. Try at this point imagining all consequences of anger, orient in situation.

In modern psychology there are two viewpoints on this issue: you can restrain your emotions, and there are several different techniques for this, and conversely, you can show them, because restraining emotions is harmful to health.

However, if you are in an office, it is hardly worth using the second method. Of course, frustration will leave you, but the chance it will do so together with your job is very high. There is a lot of classic ways to cope with negative emotions. Choose the one you like you more than others.

Draw a picture in imagination

Sometimes during a conversation, you just want to cry or throw something heavy at the other person. Do all of this! But only in your imagination. In this case, you will not cause harm to anybody. Pay special attention to details, for example, ask yourself what trajectory shatters flew at? Try to «stage» a tiny movie involving a source of irritation and you in the main role.

You can surround yourself with an imaginary wall from the most durable material, which protects you from negative and extraneous noise. This may be a dome, cone, hole, hollow - anything, if only you feel there at «home».

You can imagine that aggressive impulses emanating from a man are lightnings, but you have a powerful lightning rod, so they will not cause you any harm.

Breathe deeply, representing as you inhale cool, blue air, filled with calm and exhale warm, pink - along with irritability and anger. Concentrating carefully, to imagine what is happening.

You can “draw” an imaginary caricature of a man, adding any funny parts of your choice.
Absurd will «reduce» degree of your feelings.

Draw a true picture

Take usual pencil and plain paper, draw a portrait of an «abuser». It is absolutely unimportant whether you know how to draw, everything will be good. Then imagine how all your anger, rage and resentment «accumulate» at the tip of a pencil. Paint out, shadow your picture - let even a pencil tearing paper. Feel how negative «goes» in paper. Tear it into small pieces and flush into a toilet bowl.

If you think you draw rather well, hang a caricature portrait in your work place (without signatures, of course) or use as wallpaper for your desktop, periodically looking at it to raise your mood. At all colleagues’ questions of who it is, smile mysteriously.

Three questions to ask yourself

Consider a person that annoys you so much is not a punishment, but simulator to «practice» skills of business communication. To do this, learn talking with him, so that any part of brain could record situation for further analysis. Ask yourself:

* 1 What are the true reasons for such behavior? An answer «he/she wanted to bring me up» is wrong, look further. Try to imagine yourself in this man’s place and look at the situation from the other side. Maybe even regret him. As a rule, it turns out that a person actually has reasons to behave this way. Calls home every 15 minutes? It is likely he has a pregnant wife and year old baby, who is sick.

* 2 What retorts only reinforced your anger and why?
* 3 What will I do if the situation happens again?

If you really can do nothing and no method helps (though usually it means only that you have not tried), try to keep your communication with a person that annoys you to a minimum.