In summer we feel particularly acute sense of loneliness. All, women and men, live waiting for love, hoping to meet their halves, twist a love nest. However, these hopes often do not come true …

Why we meet more and more disillusioned people, who do not believe in love, that it can meet them behind any turn, at a nearby cafe’s table, just stretch your hand, and it will touch your open palm? Perhaps we should blame our children experience we gained in parental home … Perhaps, we want too much of another person … We believe that not we ourselves, but someone else will make us happy … Maybe it is a bitter experience …

Perhaps modern girls read too many fairy tales, which taught them that there will be a prince, who will immediately put a golden fleece, white horse, a castle, in the sense of a villa in Bahamas, a Mercedes, at least a country house to his beloved’s feet… But in real life, this fairy tale does not exist. If a girl is dreaming of a prince in the soul, all that such prince can give her - a rose bush and nightingale.

Maybe most of us are looking for love not in the right place? And many women do not seek at all, but just wait. Of course, you can expect, but still need to take steps towards desired course of events.

Very often, an idea of some ideal man you invented yourself prevents you from finding love. It is quite possible that you will find happiness not with a blue-eyed leggy blonde, but a stocky dark-haired man with brown eyes. And he will be not a doctor, general, or businessman, but a driver, teacher, dancer … Do not reject a new proposal, look closer, weigh all the pros and cons.

There are times that a girl is sitting at home, does not walk, blaming her laziness (mood, etc.). Rejects all attempts of her friends or relatives to pull her out of her shell. She rejects proposals, just because a guy is a fireman or an engineer, and she, you see, needs only a PhD or at least an oligarch.

In this case, in fact, woman is simply afraid to build relationships, not in her head, but a real man.
And all of her statements that there are no decent men around, just cover her fear of real life. Now she sits, like a girl in prison, and is waiting for a miracle, but if she comes out of it, she’ll need to just live, being responsible not only for herself. To do or solve something. The load will be increased even at home. In addition, she will need to feel another person, listen to his revelations, help, support, carry the load of common problems. And they are just scared. The older a woman is, the more difficult it is to get her out of her «prison».

Another type of complex against marriage is active, even aggressive - is internal tension, mistrust, often contempt for male race in general. For example, we often hear there are no real men, that they died out as mammoths. First, there are no women without shortcomings. Besides, what is a real woman, worthy of this man? Answers will be very different. But in a dry balance, we will come to the consclusion that there are no good women too…

What to do? Change your point of view, no matter how difficult it may be. Find examples of good men and think that you will meet exactly this type. And, perhaps most importantly - you need to know how to love. Unfortunately, in many families a child does not receive the lessons of love, caring, tenderness of another person. Becoming an adult, a person constantly faces sharp angles, suffers and gets disappointed, not realizing that often the reason for his failures in love lies in himself, his coldness, selfishness, inability to achieve understanding, failure to yield and forgive.

What to do in this case? Everyone probably knows that muscles are strained during training. The same happens with an ability to love. Get a dog, cat, mouse, flower, and love them, caress, admire them and try to understand their needs and make sure they feel good. When you get their love, transfer your ability to love on people. You will soon make sure that fluids of love and tenderness coming from you will drag your desired second half.

Single women often get cats, they carry their unrealized care on them, give them sweet words. Single women often do not want changing anything in their «bach» lives.

These ladies do not only think in a defeatist’s way, they just find a lot of excuses for their nonideal character and a lot of habits, which they hardly can quit for someone even madly loved. By the way, mad love is difficult for them - their mind almost does not turn off and whispers regular complexes, universal prescription of proud single woman’s happiness.

Psychologists believe that fear determines these women’s actions. This fear to be betrayed, fail, become a looser… Some fears are superimposed on the other. They are as if expecting a betrayal: a woman is convinced she will be deceived, and prefers not to engage in close relationships. Different women treat unsuccessful affairs in different ways. Some are all realistic, guided by a very wise principle: “This will pass”, others are fixed at this, cultivate their suffering and even enjoy them.

In many ways, this explains why a modern woman goes to bed with a man with the words «this does not mean anything», allows him staying at her place, saying «this is temporary, until someone from us finds a better partner» and so on. She cannot give herself fully a man, is afraid of losing control.

Love brings joy not always, there can be problems, treason, frustration and separation. Every person had both good and bad love affairs in life. If all would have just a happy love, - we may be boring to live. Everyone strives for happiness, reciprocity of love. But you have to compare. Even monotonous happiness can be tedious and lead to satiation. While a bad affair can make a variety. After it relationship with mutual feelings will be valued higher. Permanently happy people are boring. They are fixed only on themselves. To know what is happiness, you need to know also misfortune.