Cupid’s arrows are restless on a Valentine’s Day. There is no barrier for them. They can find us everywhere - in the university laboratories and student dormitories, schools and shops, offices and on the street. In buses, trains, parks and even hospitals. At work and leisure. These treacherous arrows find us when we do not expect it. And we are immediately sick …

Often the question is whether you want to just meet new people or communicate with a person for the prospect of long relationship? Perhaps you have no particular interest to a specific person, you are just sociable. This does not impose any obligations on you and you should understand this very clearly. If a new acquaintance thinks otherwise - you will be hard to understand each other, so analyze your relationship and decide for yourself what exactly you mean by finding a new acquaintance. And what your new friends mean.

On initial stage of relationship initiative is not important. The main is not to make mutual recriminations and unilateral remorse in a “perpetual stereotype”. If the one you like offends you regularly, and never goes forward, then you should think about it. There is a principle: “So far - and no more.” Every person and every case has their own “so fars”. The main is to be aware of borders. Their necessity, or, conversely, lack of need.

Let’s try to analyze where probability of contracting a disease, which name is love, is the highest. Meeting or Acquaintance are considered to cause this disease, so we will investigate them.

During study
Theory:
Here you have a great variety of options - learning can take place in schools, universities, advanced training courses. University may be in his native city, or in another. But all acquaintances during a variety of studies have much in common - it is easiness and unobtrusiveness. Because you meet and communicate in common atmosphere. Moreover, there are many situations when several Cupids are flying in the air - one cannot cope: joint preparation for exams, prolonged into the night, summer practice, student dining room - nothing pulls together better, than a meal that can not be eaten. And if you’re no longer a student, do not despair - there are so many courses now.

Practice:
A girl studied at our institute. Her name was Grace. It was a very good girl, she lived with mother, and dated nobody for five years of study. While distribution she was bitterly crying - there were no jobs in her hometown. So Grace went in a foreign city to work and live in a dormitory. It happened that seven people also came there, but Grace still was crying for half-year - she was a homebody. In winter, she was sent for refresher courses and again she cried. And a month later Grace returned shining like a new penny: she met a young man on courses, they were going to marry soon, and move to other city. Well, what if she could stay in her native city?
Pluses: You see a person often and in varying circumstances.
Disadvantages: You can spin at the exam.

At work
Theory:
Pluses - there is time to see a person in everyday environments, observe his reaction in everyday situations. And just as in case of study, you have a common cause. Corporate holidays, trips on a weekend - this is that romantic component, which gives impetus to development of these relations.

Practice:
Some time ago I worked at a factory, in one of offices. Our team was young and cheerful. During first six months three couples were formed. Chief looked at us with inexpressible sorrow. As it turned out, his hunch was true…
Pros: There is always a topic for conversation.
Disadvantages: production process or your reputation may be damaged.

Dating Services
Theory: here you need patience, endurance and a clear knowledge of what you want. It would seem that Cupid has nothing to do with such a calculating approach. But no, the number of successful continuation of dating is rather high. Personally, I am confused by large field of choice. And all this seems somehow tedious.
Practice: A very nice guy, sociable and «without addictions» met his future wife on the ad. I asked him:
— Why did you decide to use this service? You are so sociable in real life!
— Of course, I date easily, but I also part easily. And here is another matter.
Maybe he was pity of elapsed time, who knows? Or it was his destiny?
Pluses: Wide range.
Disadvantages: Wide range. Reality is not always consistent with information provided in the ad.

Dating on the Internet.
Theory: Chat rooms are very popular now. But we must tell you - projections are not very comforting. In realily and Internet you meet two different people. Our virtual image reveals our inner essence somehow stronger.
Practice: Kiss and NEO met in one chat. They were from the same city. They communicated very well at first in chat, and then through ICQ. Once all tradititional visitors of chat decided to drink some beer together. Popili, pereznakomilis. Kiss turned to be a very pretty squab, but NEO didn’t like her. They continue chatting, but this communication did not transformed into love.
Pros: Ability to learn one’s tastes slowly.
Disadvantages: virtual and real images are different.

Note for lovers
This leaflet is intended only for the fact that you could avoid some mistakes in the beginning of dating, choose people that match you and communicate with them comfortably. What we are talking about are copybook maxims. You know all this, but sometimes it is useful to identify basic principles and points of communication with strangers.

If you are afraid of failure in love, before affording yourself to fall in love, learn everything about your hero.
• It is desirable that his childhood was happy and normal.
• It is good, if he grew grown in a full family, where mom and dad love each other dearly.
• Do not fall in love with a married man, moreover burdened with children. The history of civilization shows that such relationship ends sadly. Married men are like clams - one in a million has a pearl, the rest are just slugs.
• Do not fall in love, if you’re married! Secret will become clear and life between two fires is dangerous.
• If you felt passion to your boss, kill these feelings. Corporate scandals, conflicts do not help real happiness.
• If you live in a capital, fear of provincial «machos». Inhabitants of a small town, as you know, should not even look at the side of metropolitan population. Choose a partner from your social environment, to avoid constant infringement of individuality.
• We advise you not to look at singers, artists and other representatives of Bohemia. They are not for quiet family happiness, and, as a rule, they choose their colleagues, who understand tense of acting schedule better.

How to keep your dream man?
There are specific skills and behaviors that help you manipulating opposite sex, cause sexual interest, fall in love with you, finally. Let’s try to understand “body language”, which transmit signals related to sex.

1. “Fatal” look
At first contact, it is important to show an interlocutor, that at this point he is the most interesting and important for you. This look shows complete concentration at an object. Watch straight in his eyes, give him assurance that everything coming out of his lips is brilliant, unique, exciting!

2. Art of conversation
Recall Carnegie: everyone likes to talk about himself. So, you should show a sincere interest in an interlocutor. Ask any questions, about his work, hobbies, habits, favorite foods, etc. Ask anything that is referring to him! Of course, you need a special grace, not to seem intrusive, curious. Here there are no details ( “what a nice tie you have!”, “You have a wonderful lipstick!”, “Do you always have such a haircut?”, etc.).

3. Subtle flattery is always appropriate
Somewhere inside of us we have a shy and diffident child. If one is said he he has a wonderful smile, or that you’ve heard many good things about him, he likes it. And that’s normal.

4. What does my name tell you?
Find an occasion to call your partner’s name more often.

5. Maximum support
Support the ideas, statements, offers of other person more actively (of course, if it does not conflict with your policy positions). This is a symbolic statement: “We are together!”

6. Give to get
Do not be afraid to give up something in your partner’s interests. Later he will return everything and more.

7. Express your feelings
Never be afraid to show your appreciation, approval, admiration, passion. We all have a yearning for warmth and tenderness, approval and acceptance. If feelings are expressed - this is excellent!

8. Contact via touch
If there is a justifiable time - touch an interlocutor. A particular contact occurs through love, gesture, touch.

9. Be careful to a partner
Try to understand what this man would like, what he expects, in particular from you.

We think that even an attempt to apply this information on practice should have effect. Good luck. If you follow these rules, you will avoid unhappy love.