Fathers influence children development in a greater degree, than mothers! This is paradoxical, but is fact. And which other factors you know about fatherly education and influence?

Features of a fatherly role in a family and children education are defined by such factors, as availability of father to a child, his inclusiveness in joint activity. Comparison of “included fathers» and «included mothers», i.e. participating in education actively,allowed to draw a conclusion that such fathers influence children development more successfully, than mothers.

Psychologists obtain the data, testifying that children growing without fathers receive higher development of humanitarian abilities. At comparison of mother’s and fatherly styles of education it was shown that authoritativeness of father renders, basically, positive influence on children informative abilities, whereas authoritativeness of mother – negative. Father’s intellectual characteristics correspond to formation of children informative skills, irrespective of his sex, better, than similar mother’s characteristics. They revealed positive conformity between children talent and level of father’s trade’s complexity.

Many researchers underline exclusive importance of parental behaviour in the first years of a child’s life for development of his self-estimation. Installations of parents, thanks to which a child feels loved, respected, cause in him similar installation, leading to sensation of own value and success. Thus, parental warmth, care and insistence dictated by love, should promote development of positive self-estimation, and cold, hostile relations lead to opposite effect.

In spite of the fact that almost all parents love their children,  there are still distinctions between them in how often and openly they express this feeling.

For our culture external father’s display of love and tenderness to a child is not characteristic. To embrace, sit on knees, praise, ask about things he saw on walk, in a kindergarten, be surprised, admire a construction from cubes, drawing, ability to dance, tell a poem – all this is not peculiar for majority of modern fathers.

Today father’s love to a child is more often expressed in expensive toy purchase. But a child needs father’s attention, participation, understanding, friendship, generality of interests more, than even the most attractive toy. Daddy is not just a supporter, but a person, opening the world to a child, helping him growing skilful, self-assured.

One more negative line of our modern line of education – prevalence of censure over praise. Many daddies think that bringing up means making remarks, prohibitions, punishment and see their parental function in this. As a result, by 4-5 years a child has a representation about father, as about a  person who, unlike mother, expects “wrong”, “bad” behaviour from a child, estimates him low – not only this or that concrete act, but also a child’s personality as a whole. Further this representation extends on other people – a child becomes diffident, expects negative estimations of his abilities from surrounding people.

Authoritative style of education is especially adverse for children development. Characteristic feature of authoritative fathers’ behaviour is their aspiration to categoricalness in judgements and clearness in any situation. Therefore any punishment, any requirement to a child does not comprise even a hint on readiness to accept a child, help him in something or convince. Such fathers sometimes can sincerely consider that their child is bad entirely, without any reservations. As a result, a child has confidence that he is not accepted, approved from first years of life, and, finally, this leads to belief in their uselessness for parents. As a result of such education, intensity is marked in children behaviour. Besides, any new or not clear situation associates at children with punishment possibility, what, in its turn, is accompanied by raised uneasiness and sensation of discomfort. And as a child of early age considers many situations unfamiliar, he stays in a disturbing condition almost all time.

However, even abusing and punishing a child, parents do smaller harm to his self-perception, than showing absolute indifference to him. Indifference, disinterest to a child lead to deformation of his “I” image.

Therefore watch harmonious development of your child, and allow father taking active part in it!