You’ve placed your photo in a dating agency and began receiving letters. How to recognize your future husband and what to write in response? Our conversation will be on this subject. Of course, it’s impossible to give receipts for all cases. You know, your world, like your darling’s one, is unique and the fact of your communication with him itself - is a secret, which you both will have to open. Go forward bravely, be open and cautious, wise and na??ve, weak and strong, be yourself. Our recommendations will help you to make the first step in a difficult matter of writing a letter to a stranger

You’ve placed your photo in a dating agency and began receiving letters. How to recognize your future husband and what to write in response? Our conversation will be on this subject. Of course, it’s impossible to give receipts for all cases. You know, your world, like your darling’s one, is unique and the fact of your communication with him itself - is a secret, which you both will have to open. Go forward bravely, be open and cautious, wise and na??ve, weak and strong, be yourself. Our recommendations will help you to make the first step in a difficult matter of writing a letter to a stranger.

How to make a choice? You need to filter letters of those men, who are not for you obviously. However, this doesn’t mean you need to ignore such letters. You need to reply to all letters. You just should prepare a standard reply, which you can send to all inappropriate candidates. Thank him politely for his attention and inform that his candidature is inappropriate for you. Don’t write that you’ve already met somebody. This way you’ll damage a reputation of the agency, which placed your ad. Agree, in such case it’s more logical to send a letter to the agency, asking to remove your ad. Thus, you’ll save your time, man’s money, who hopes to receive a positive answer from you, and save agency from unwanted troubles with a client.
How to carry out filtering? Which signs you should use to determine whether this man suits you or not? There’s no 100% answer to this question. However, you should pay attention to the following moments:

1. What’s his letter about, as a matter of fact? Are you paid compliments? Does it contain unequivocal hints? Are you invited to a friendly correspondence? Does he write about some other topic, not concerning your wishes to find a husband? Or he writes you a serious detailed letter with a hope for possible relationships? If a man with obvious sexual deflections wrote to you, remember, which photo have you send to an agency? May be it contained some challenge and invitation for such letters? If so, then send another photo. But anyway, refuse to that adventurer. While reading the first letter from a man, always remember: a man, interested in your positive answer, will definitely consider his letter, try to send you a good photo, in short, try to make the first impression on you, and thus, prepare to this soundly. Maximum of efforts and time will be put in his first letter.
2. Whom a letter from? It’s very important to pay attention to the things your correspondent informs about himself: age, profession, education, place of living, presence of children etc. You should clearly understand what suits you or not in your potential partner. You should clearly understand those possible problems, you may face, if you ignore big age difference, presence of three kids, living with their father every 2 weeks, or the fact that he lives in a country, far from big noisy city. You shouldn’t also ignore those positive qualities, which attracted your attention. As it’s known, many things will be corrected in further relations. But basic ideas about your future darling should be clear and somehow stable.
3. Of course, in such important matter, like searching for a husband, emotional factor is also important. What did you feel while reading that letter? Whether that very sparkle flashed in you, of which a fire of love will flame up in future? Listen to yourself. What does your heart say? Do you like this man or not? And, nevertheless, regardless of positive and negative result of your dialogue with your heart, you should start correspondence. Time and also additional information about this person will sort things out.

And, at last, what to write in response? The first letter - is your pass to a further life. You should put maximum efforts to introduce yourself in the best possible way and make the best impression.

Can you use a standard sample? Of course, you can prepare a letter, where you will inform basic information about yourself and ask necessary to your opinion questions to a man. However, you will still have to treat each reply individually, making necessary additions. A man should feel that your reply was composed only for him. So, it will be good, if you comment his letter with a phrase, like: “You write that family is the main thing in your life, and I completely agree with you”. You should also definitely answer all his questions to you.

Which sort of information should you tell about yourself? Write about your family, work, city, things you like doing in your spare time. Try to give him opportunity to imagine your life, your inner world. Approach to composition of a letter in a creative way, with inventiveness and at the same time humor.

Which questions to ask? Try to ask him as much questions about his life and views on world, as you can. Ask about his hobbies, passions, things he likes doing in his spare time. It’s very important to know about his way of life, habits. You know, these are constituents of everyday life, which further will help or on the contrary damage your relations.

What you shouldn’t write? You shouldn’t ask straight questions about concrete sum of income. It’s better to wait until a man writes you about it himself. Material base for marriage is a very important thing, and a man, interested in a strong marriage, should realize clearly that he takes responsibility on himself. On no account ask money. Otherwise, you run a risk to be blacklisted.

As for general tone of the first letter, it’s better to choose friendly, interested tone, instead of dry, or, on the contrary, too intimate one.
Remember, the first letter is your pass to further family life. You should do everything so that this pass would work. So, try to pay attention both to details and general content and appearance of a letter. Carelessness and inattention in this case may damage your family happiness.
However, you shouldn’t be afraid to be misunderstood or that your letter may be uninteresting. Don’t ask anybody to write the first letter (and all other) for you. Remember, you’re searching for your soul mate and you want him to feel comfortable with you. So, he should read your thoughts and catch your mood through your letter. Be natural, calm and self-confident. If your admirer still doesn’t like your letter, this means he’s just not your man. Though, any normal man will be attracted by female sincerity, kindness and wish to understand him.