Who is “femme fatale”? This is far not only a literary character, though poets of all times, since Homere, sang hymns to her… Some call her “rival in love “, some sighs delightfully, and others spit in her face. She does not keep account of her victories, walks along life easily and confidently, breaking hearts all the time. Being a subjugator and ruler of man’s destinies is so tempting. At least for a minute!

And she is not a man-hater at all, sometimes you’ve got an impression she does not realise her force to the full, this woman behaves so easy and naturally. And why, actually, - “fatal”? Well, because a man will remember even a fleeting meeting with her for a long, as something very important personally for him…

Perhaps she can be rather called a “Real Woman”? What’s her secret? What is it - a congenital quality or skill got meaningly? Is it possible to become “femme fatal”? As one classic said, “femme fatal is a trade”. And you can and should study a trade.

Not a beauty

First of all,  let’s specify at once: beautiful and “fatale” are absolutely different concepts. To make it clearer, I will describe a situation each of us faced in those or other variants. So, a Beauty suddenly appears in your company. First ten minutes no other women can count even on a second of attention to herelf from outside men. Their looks are chained to the beauty.

However, after half an hour, and even less, men for some reason cease paying attention to the Beauty. And here she already sits, necessary to nobody, in loneliness.

Like a beautiful vase you admired, and then put on its place and went to communicate with live people. A heroine of our story - a Beauty, but not “femme fatal”. And therefore, any attention to her is literally passes in indifference in half an hour. And men love real “femmes fatales” for years. And decades. Thus these women are not beauties at all, more truly, this is not an indispensable condition. They can have an ordinary appearance, nevertheless, best men are at their feet.

Assured and self-sufficient

One of “femme fatale” secrets is that they know one simple rule precisely: not fullness, not curve feet and not a big nose make us ugly! But our feeling of uncertainty, coming from comprehension of own”lameness”. There is no point to be angry with destiny and take offence on whole world: this makes us closed, vulnerable, spiteful and sensitive. A woman with such qualities will hardly attract someone’s attention, and appearance is of no meaning here.

A real woman knows well: her lacks can be pleasant no less, than advantages, and at times and even more. Advantages glorify us, belittling another involuntarily. And lacks allow another laughing mildly over them, lift associates in their own eyes.

Game by rules

One more “femme fatale” secret consists in the fact that she knows (or feels) man’s psychology in detail. At dialogue with any man she uses (not always meaningly!) same scheme, consisting of four steps. This is a real scheme, because its filling - is especially individual and creative business.

Step first: “You are so unusual!”. Step second: “Why nobody, except me, notices this?”.Step third: “Do you want me to help you becoming even better?”.Step fourth: And now look, how unusual I am! “.

A very unpretentious scheme by sight, but it operated smoothly on any man in all centuries. You just should use it competently and without falseness. “Fatal women” can do this.

«Vamp» – does not mean fatale

For many people a “fatal woman” image is identified with “vamp” style, full of cold, severe attractiveness. It is not necessary to confuse these two concepts. Vamp does not resemble a terrestrial woman. Her cold dispassionateness, inaccessibility, elegant leanness, of course, draws, but not all men. And to be even more exact - very few.

Vamp can be worshipped from afar and platonically, but you cannot love her, wish to live your whole life with her, seeing her nearby every day. In this role “fatal woman” is much more attractive. She is terrestrial. Coldness is attractive only at initial stages of dialogue (and only for fans to overcome absolute obstacles). And further you need warmth, participation and simplicity in dialogue.

Laughing together

One more secret of a real woman - sense of humour. This is not such a trifle as it seems. For men sense of humour is an integral part of their psychological warehouse. It is necessary for them, because men are constantly under responsibility cargo - necessity to succeed, reach, provide prevails over them. And sense of humour, laughter, helps being discharged, treating yourself, a situation much easier.

Women who do not have sense of humour, as a rule, cause irritation in men. Too serious women remind men of school teachers, strict mothers, and other furious ladies dressed by power. Men, laughing, as though turn to little boys, therefore, refusing to joke together with them, we will wound their gravity. They are revealed in front of you, and you do not. Then they feel less protected and trust you less!

And, besides, a woman possessing sense of humour just cannot be a silly woman. “Fatal woman” never can be silly and superficial. It is a myth that men like charming little fools. They can “condescend” to them from time to time, but they will never break life and lose sleep at night because of them!

Use your riches tactfully

One more property of “fatal women” - feeling of step. Any of them never starts using appeal, sexuality to manipulate a man. Because they know precisely: men hate empty sexual advances. They instantly distinguish it and even if they outwardly show they like such behaviour, inside they will not apprehend this woman seriously. Clever women make all this in more delicate manner.

And the last: clever women, who mastered secrets set forth above, become “fatal”, able to understand and accept men the way they are. They are real Muses of great fulfilments and opening, they are worthy of it!