77443_b.gifUnfortunate love… How many hearts it broke, how many blood it drank and how many lives it spoiled. But after all there should be anantidote, and it exists!

Three most popular reasons

1. Avoid exclusive and reckless attachment to other person; it is not, as it often seems, an example of absolute love.

2. First of all, divide in your understanding what you name love and what it is actually.

3. It is checked up on experience of many generations that time treats even those soul wounds, which at first seem not healing. Popular wisdom says that together with grief each person receives also forces for its overcoming.

In given article you will find various moments from experience of psychologists, trying to support people at disintegration of relations, unfortunate or unrequited love. Some will be as though about you personally, and others have no relation to you, are written about other people. This division is conditional, in real life everything is interconnected and one follows from another, it may seem that different words designate same reasons. Psychologists just try to grasp the reasons of why a person cannot lead a high-grade life, love and feel pleasure from the fact of his own existence from different sides.

Unfortunate love to yourself

It is a question of substitution of love to other being through claims on his love, an attempt to oblige other person to fill your empty soul to edges. It is a popular belief that other person can make you happy, and you just should catch such person. Each of partners should find decision of own problems inside of his own soul, instead of out of it, forcing a partner to change. And the most wrong in a case with unfortunate love, is to elicit, buy, demand, try to force an object of your interest to reciprocal feeling. You will not only receive so necessary recognition, respect and understanding, you will also lose rests of what your existence keeps on.

The worse relations become, the more difficult it is for an unfortunately enamoured to finish them, because of acute requirement to be loved. Your actions, energy and force will be spent for nothing, flow in a bottomless well. It is necessary to understand it and find internal possibilities of more self-sufficient and able to see love. There is such law that delusion takes hold of your soul because of scarcity of its real life.

You should understand that putting talents in affairs which will bear fruits is more reasonable. Therefore it makes sense to water not a lifeless desert, but more benign soil. A declaration of love is useless for the one who is already bored of abundance of similar recognitions. You immensely appreciate your declaration of love, and it does not represent any value for him. This happens, though enamoured refuse to believe in it.

Illness of faultlessness

In life there is  always an occasion to feel unfortunate. However, people differ with their relation to happening. For someone a spot on face can become the reason for depression. Misfortune reasons are always inside of a person. And other person develops misfortune from any arriving material and consequently any impression can become the reason of your frustration. In that case it is possible to advise learning paying attention and finding good and joyful in our imperfect world.

And other side of illness of faultlessness, is expecting conformity to your ideal from other.

Inflexibility of mentality

Emotional superdependence arises when absolutely normal person coincides with ideal partner’s image in an unconscious part of mentality. Those people at whom this unconscious ideal image is strictly outlined, very accurate and energetically powerful, capable to “draw” a real partnerto itself get to dependence - and such happens far not with everybody, an ideal is rather flexible for majority of people. More safe in this respect people keep in touch with one partner not because «I can be happy only with him/her», but due to other reasons.

Got the raw end of stick

Here we mean reasons which are not explained in given article. Perhaps they are still unknown in general, maybe, they just did not come to our field of vision. Or maybe, because in life there are always questions, which still have no answers. And in a greater degree, we can say that love is a secret, escaping a reasonable explanation. And then we can wish next time you will be lucky.