A set of grants is written on children education, there are hundreds recommendations, which frequently confuse young mothers. Actually it is necessary for them to consider only 12 basic nuances in dialogue.

Rule 1
Do not interfere with business a child is occupied with, if he does not ask about help. Your non-interference will inform him: «Everything is all right with you! You certainly will consult!»

Rule 2
If a child is really hard, and is ready to accept your help, help him necessarily. Thus: - incur only things he cannot execute by himself, the rest give to him! - in the process of a child’s development of new actions gradually pass them to him.

Rule 3
Gradually and steadily remove care and responsibility for your child’s private affairs from you and pass them to him!

Rule 4
Allow your child meeting negative consequences of his actions (or inactivity). Only then he will mature and become “conscious”!

Rule 5
If a child has an emotional problem, it will be correct to listen him “actively”!

Rule 6
If a child’s behaviour causes “negative” feelings and experiences in you, simply inform him about it in the form of “I-statement”!

Rule 7
Remove from the dialogue with a child «12 hindrances» - habitual or automatic reactions: orders, commands; preventions, threat; morals, etc. to the maximum!

Rule 8
Commensurate own expectations with a child’s possibilities. Do not demand impossible from him. Instead look what you can change in surrounding conditions!

Rule 9
Do not appropriate emotional a child’s problems!

Rule 10
Rules (restrictions, requirements) should necessarily exist in a life of each child, but: - they should not be too numerous and it would be very good that they would be flexible; - parental requirements should not enter obvious contradiction with a child’s major requirements; - rules (restrictions, requirements, interdictions) should be co-ordinated by adults among themselves; - tone in which a requirement or an interdiction is informed, should be rather friendly-explanatory, than imperative!

Rule 11
Rules and consequences should be formulated simultaneously!

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It is necessary to apply sanctions, instead of punishment!

Children are learnt by what surrounds them! (pay attention on how you communicate among yourselves and how people associates of your child communicate)

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If a child is often criticised - he learns to condemn.
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And when a child is often praised - he learns to estimate.
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If a child is often shown animosities, he learns to fight.
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When you are usually fair with a child - he studies justice.
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If a child is often derided - he learns to be shy.
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When a child lives with feeling of safety - he learns to trust.
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And if a child is often dishonoured - he learns to feel guilty.
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At frequent approval of a child - he begins treating himself always well.
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If you are indulgent to a child - he learns to be patient.
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When a child is often encouraged, he studies self-trust.
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If a child lives in the atmosphere of friendship and feels necessary, he learns to find love in this world!

Well, now you know the simplest and important things for establishment of good and kind relations between you and your child. I wish you good luck! And the biggest rule: certainly love and accept a child the way he is!