How to bring up a leader in ourselves, develop leader’s features, become an example, so that other people would admire your qualities? Now there are lots of courses promising to teach you all aforesaid for fabulous money, but whether it is necessary to waste them, if you can learn everything by yourself, you just should have a goal. How? Let’s learn!

Leader – who is it?

First of all it is necessary to make a definition of the word “leader”. A leader – the one who has control over general mood, creates emotional atmosphere, the one who knows why he does it. To become a leader, it is necessary to bring up yourself accordingly, learn putting purposes and priorities for yourself.

A leader is not a person with outstanding natural abilities, ultrahigh IQ. He is first of all a person possessing intuition, an insight and skill to communicate.

There are many qualities which are attributed to leaders. And practically all of them appear in the course of purposeful work on yourself. Psychology of a leader is a way of thinking, a way of estimation of his validity and possibilities. It is a filter which helps to remain a self-assured person trusting in own forces. And psychology of a leader needs to be brought up in yourselves, if you wish to become successful. Psychologists have been developing a set of systems and ways of development of leader’s psychology and qualities for a long time.

Become a leader!

Changing yourself, remain yourself. It is not necessary to put on a mask of the one whom you wish to become, even if you want it very strongly. Only imitation, instead of objective estimation of your possibilities, work on self, self-realisation, will not bring results. Try to use all energy which is given to you, talents, abilities on a total power.

You should hardly wait for results from reading of popular psychological literature with bright and much-promising titles like «Become a leader for a week», «How to become a millionaire quickly» and others, celebrities’ biographies. Visiting courses where self-appointed miracle-bio-psychologists will learn to become successful people, naturally, for compensation, is not also useful. An objective estimation of yourself, your possibilities together with self-development, accurate statement of purposes – here is what you need.

To analyse your lacks, accept them (and this is already a step forward) and eradicate them, there are following ways:

1. Talk to an internal critic. Listen to his remarks concerning yourself and associates, object him objectively. And it is even better to get a writing-book, in which you will write down everything he tells you, without embellishing. Write criticism to your address from second person, as though these are really words of other person. For example, instead of «I am not right here» you need «he is not right here». Learn to answer all his attacks with cool «well, so what …»

2. Learn opinion of your close friends and relatives. Give them a sheet of paper or a cartridge, on which they should write down all bad they see in you and also everything they like you. Friends should be really close, and quantity of bad and good lines would be better approximately identical. And it is necessary not to be afraid of reading/listening to everything up to the end. Then your fear in front of your own inferiority will turn back your ally. You just should not be afflicted, and accept adequately new food to reflexion.

3. Write down your lacks and reasons, not allowing to reach what you want on a sheet of paper, and then burn it. It is possible to carry out this procedure several times for achievement of bigger result. Do not be afraid to be fair in front of yourself. Write everything that comes to your mind. Unburden your heart to paper. You should be fair in front of you as much as possible. Write throughout whole day. So, if displeasing reasons appear again and again – you can add. It is better to use the following structure: write a purpose and below - the reason of failure. Repeat an act of cremation of objectionable personal qualities in the process of finding, emerging in memory or at will.

4. Every day mark your successes. In the end of day, before going to bed, write down everything you could make today in a notebook. Let there will be seven or more points. It will help to adjust yourself on performance of affairs, planned for tomorrow. And do this irrespective of a day. No matter what happens, there should be executed affairs under each date. You will mark also failures for yourself. This exercise should help to reveal weaknesses and draw up “self-correction” plan.

And at last, do not refuse yourself in pleasures. Try to do something desirable every day: buy a cake with a cream and rose, go somewhere to have a rest, descend on fishing or in a hairdressing salon (depending on your sex or predilections). Learn to feel pleasure from it. So learn to understand that everything that you want – is achievable. If any force-majeur does not allow that, alas … but it is not necessary to accuse anybody. Five gone right days in a week – a good indicator.

Well-with, companions leaders, have acquired? I hope that article will help you to achieve what you want. Now you just should realise all this in life and forward to unsubdued tops. We wish you good luck.